As the well-known phrase goes “I have some good news and I have some bad news”.
Separation has been “normalised”. There are many reasons why that is a good thing. For example, if you have children, when they go to school they shouldn’t be teased, marginalised nor ostracised. And nor will you! That’s because separation and divorce are a common experience, it’s “normal”.
The bad news is because separation and divorce are “normal”, you may find this experience much more difficult than you imagined. I mean people do it all the time, right?
~ For some of you, it could lead to a belief that separation is a relatively linear experience, leaving you unprepared for many unexpected detours;
~ For some of you, it could mean that your friends expect you to “bounce back” fairly quickly, leaving you feeling alone and overwhelmed;
~ For some of you, it could mean that you struggle unexpectedly at work as you balance your career with the many emotional, financial and legal demands of separation; and
~ For some of you, it could mean that you are misinformed by separation and divorce stories that circulate in your community.
In short, you may find the process of separation very different than you imagined and far more complicated. I’d like to help: whether you're deciding if you're ready to separate, in the process of separating or adjusting to life after separation.